Sexual Health and Disablity

Body Image?

The society we live in today is heavily influenced by the ‘ideal’ body image. Media, fashion, celebrities, popular music and film industries, all surround us with examples of ‘beautiful people’. These images that are considered ideal are unrealistic and unattainable for most of us. We are all taught to be conscious of our body shape, size, weight and physical attributes. Even if we consider this ideal to be unrealistic, ‘norms’ are frequently imposed on us so that people who do not conform to these norms might face rejection and isolation from sections of society as a result.

Sex sexual images and sexual ideas are used constantly in the media and especially in advertising. The representation of a look or lifestyle as being the only acceptable way to be is held up as something we should all be striving for. And if we do not achieve this ideal, we are seen to be inadequate in some way. Difference is too often viewed negatively. Physical differences can be used as sources of insult, and people who don’t immediately “fit in” can be pushed away further just because they are different. Within our culture, disability is also often viewed negatively and the lives of disabled people are not reflected positively in the media, if at all.

Disabled people are not exempt from the influence of messages that attempt to dictate what is and is not desirable or attractive within society. These sorts of messages are often internalized, and have a deep effect on how people see themselves. The concept of body image as it impacts disabled people is crucial, especially when looking at situations where body parts function differently or have been changed; and these considerations apply whether the disability is lifelong or acquired.

How we feel about ourselves is an essential part of our relationships. Knowing about our bodies is an essential part of sexual health. We should all have full and appropriate sexual health information and education, free from stereotypical perceptions, to enable us to develop a positive sense of who we are sexually. We all have the right to respect and dignity in our sexual relationships, and equal treatment from society. Disability challenges notions of perfection and beauty as defined by popular dominant culture, and it is important to continually reinforce differentness as exciting and full of opportunity. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that can make sure everyone gets the relationship that they want, or always has their ideal sex life whether or not there is any disability involved. However, through openness and support, a positive body image and good, holistic sexual health can be enjoyed by all.